Coming out was not about finally realizing who I was; it was about realizing that there were other people that did not feel the way that I did, that there was language to name how I felt, and that I was not alone.
It’s easy to confuse someone occupying space in the world with them asking you to be in that space. What I mean is: just because queer and trans folks want to be recognized and respected, doesn’t mean we think that in order to be respected, other people have to...
When I am referred to as “she,” I still feel excluded, invisible, misunderstood. This is a feeling that I do my best to transform into energy to educate would-be allies.