Tell me more about what it means to be nonbinary!
 I would love to. I really enjoy sharing my experience as a queer non-binary person and community member!
If you are on this page, THANK-YOU! You are taking the time to educate yourself, and you can pass this knowledge on to others. If you are here, it means you are trying to be an ally to me and all LGBTQIA+ people. That is amazing and it means so much to all of us.
Please do share the information you find here, and talk about it with as many people as possible. The more people know about the nuances of gender and sexuality, the less likely that I, and people like me, will be excluded because of a lack of knowledge.
The Basics
If this is the first time you are hearing about non-binary gender, you may be confused about the differences between gender, sex assigned at birth, and how all of these things interact.
The image below is an amazing resource to help contextualize all of these nuances prior to getting into any specific gender identity or sexuality. Click on the image to enlarge it.
What Does âNon-Binaryâ Mean?
Non-binary gender (see also genderqueer) describes any gender identity which does not fit the male and female binary. Those with non-binary genders can feel that they:
- Have an androgynous (both masculine and feminine) gender identity, such as androgyne.
- Have an identity between male and female, such as intergender.
- Have a neutral or unrecognized gender identity, such as agender, neutrois, or most xenogenders.
- Have multiple gender identities, such as bigender or pangender.
- Have a gender identity which varies over time, known as genderfluid.
- Have a weak or partial connection to a gender identity, known as demigender.
- Are intersex and identify as intersex, know as amalgagender
- Have a culturally specific gender identity which exists only within their or their ancestorâs culture.
Non-binary people may also identify as transgender and/or transsexual.
Non-binary people may wish to transition so that their gender expression more closely reflects their internal identity. Many non-binary people wish to appear androgynous and adopt unisex names, gender-neutral titles such as Mx. and/or gender-neutral pronouns, but others prefer to express themselves in ways which are traditionally seen as masculine or feminine or to mix aspects of the two.
Non-binary people can have any sexual orientation.
A brief introduction to nonbinary genders — told by nonbinary person, Riley Dennis.
I donât get the whole they/them pronouns thing. Can you explain more?
Hereâs a great article on Teen Vogue about using they/them pronouns. Some of the questions they address in the article:
âYou look like a boy/girl. Why use they instead of he/she?â
âYouâre only one person! How does that work?â
âIâm fine with non-binary people, but I donât believe in singular they pronouns. It makes no sense.â
âMy non-binary friend is okay with being called he/she, so I donât think itâs a big deal.â
âI try to use they/them pronouns when people ask, but itâs so hard! I keep messing it up.â
“My pronouns are they/them/theirs, and that’s a non-negotiable…they’re so important because they are the smallest and easiest way that you can acknowledge somebody’s identity.”
This is all fine, but in the end, there are really only two sexes, biologically â right?
Wrong! At least 1/100 people in Canada and the US are intersex â read more on what that means here.
These myths about non-binary people come up often in my conversations on the subject.
This article on Everyday Feminism addresses ten myths about non-binary people.
Myth #1: You Are Trying to Be âSpecial Snowflakesâ (Or âThis Is Just a Fadâ)
Myth #2: Youâre Just Confused
Myth #3: You Are a New Concept
Myth #4: You All Fit on a Spectrum, from âMasculineâ to âFeminineâ
Myth #5: Youâre Genderqueer? Thatâs So Political!
Myth #6: You Want to Destroy Gender
Myth #7: Your Pronouns Are Ridiculous
Myth #8: You Donât Medically Transition
Myth #9: Non-Binary Equals Intersex
Myth #10: You Donât Experience Trans Oppression
Photo Series Shows Non-Binary People as They Want to Be Seen
Click here to see a photo series on the beauty of nonbinary people as they want to be seen.
